Harry Turner 0:12
Welcome to this three part series you're listening to an off season is that so special, engage with myself and Felicia Miller Johnson, all Intuitive Life Coach and Webcaster. During this three week mini series, there will be real talk conversations yall that will encourage you to go with the flow. Create your own luck, and start fresh, agape and stay lit.
Felicia Miller Johnson 0:39
Session Three, what I'm calling Friday night enlightenment.
Harry Turner 0:43
Welcome, everybody. Welcome. This is our this is our trilogy, you know, our final episode of the trilogy, you know, and so today, fresh, yeah, fresh, you know, I'm gonna sit back, you know, I'm gonna sit back, you know, my sister, she got she got interview. This is her house, you know, I like to sit like sometimes, you know?
Felicia Miller Johnson 1:02
Okay, so for those, which is connected here to the chrysella Oh, and so when we're talking about the fresh start, so it was no accident that it was today, because today is also a full moon here. I'm in Little Rock, Arkansas. And it's the worm but with more to come to that. Alright, so fresh start it says it's time to start fresh, close the door behind you. So you can move forward and open a new one. Every day is a blank canvas and opportunity to boldly go after the things in life you want and leave behind anything you don't. You don't need to settle for the status quo or accept what already is. You have the power to change your life and do things differently every day. It's time to live by and Out with the old in with the new and beautiful mentality.
Harry Turner 1:53
Yes, let me hit it with I was not even prepared. I gotta have the stuff prepared. Yeah.
Felicia Miller Johnson 2:03
We learned week one, we just go with the flow.
Harry Turner 2:06
We go with the flow. Go with the flow. I'm gonna find that one. What you just said was to
Felicia Miller Johnson 2:13
well, you know, this stood out because my mom asked me what? My mom
Felicia Miller Johnson 2:19
because she watched she didn't remember last week my mom was watching the show. She asked me she was like, what was the whole sound effects in the I said was he has this little machine that was so cool. So she was impressed by the sound of it.
Harry Turner 2:39
Well, I'm glad I'm glad Thank you, mom. I'm glad somebody is seeing all this extra effort that I'm putting into this because I'm I am an entire psychotherapist. My most of my hours goes towards traumatology, one on one therapy sessions, mental health. So for me to take the extra time and get these little fancy gadgets and then read the manuals to learn how to actually work these things. Oh, my goodness, that. Thank you. Thank you, mom. I'm saying like, seriously, I'm happy to send you a t shirt when we get t shirts. Don't worry about
Felicia Miller Johnson 3:11
Yeah, it seems so cool. Because at first I had to really figure out what she was talking about. I was like, she's like a little dlll named when she did her hand. It was kind of like the little I was like, Oh, you talk about his sound effects.
Harry Turner 3:27
One for time for moms.
Felicia Miller Johnson 3:29
That as a mom, she noticed the little things. That's what moms are for. Right? They noticed a little things. Okay. So talk about this whole starting fresh, right? We'll just kind of even connected when we talked about the other weeks, like you know, being create your luck. And it's like, okay, so now here we are. How do we in our life? Like start fresh? Think? What's calling you to start fresh in your life? Hmm.
Harry Turner 4:05
So are you asking me what areas,
Felicia Miller Johnson 4:06
Yeah what areas in life are calling for a fresh start?
Harry Turner 4:12
So I'm not gonna say Fresh Start because I don't believe in fresh starts because every moment is fresh, I believe in fresh choices. And so for me the fresh choice that I need to make that that is important for me to make that would be healthiest we can make at this time. Wisest so that's the word I'm looking for. The Fresh Start that's wisest for me is to continue to lean into my discomfort and to choose choose me to continue to choose me to continue to accept me and allow me to express myself. You know, the to the best of my abilities you know without hindering myself. So you know me myself and I we had a meeting. You know, when we all agreed that nobody's gonna stand in anybody way, we're gonna make this happen. So fresh start. You know, when we talk about a fresh start, we talked about new choices. And if we're gonna make new choices a fresh start and you're trying to, you're trying to create a new pathway, and then that you got to do something different than what you did before, which requires you to go into the unknown or the uncertain. Okay? But it's only in that space of uncertain that really growth happens, that new creation begins. We can't, we can't create out of the same old algorithm and what we know back when, you know, we have to take that and then understand and then understand the knowledge and truth that we gained from back then because there never would be a now of there were not a then, and then charter a new course. And that requires us to make new choices going into our uncertainty leaning into our discomfort going into that uncertain space. Because it's in there that we discover something that we never discovered before. We can't do that stuck in the familiar past. We must choose differently.
Felicia Miller Johnson 5:50
Okay, so you said in the discomfort. So I'm going to do Harry, where where do you experience discomfort?
Harry Turner 5:59
So the discomfort is really in change. You know, like, honestly, it's just, it's just changed this, I was joking, you know, about the system and everything. And thank you mom for acknowledging, but like, seriously, thank you, mom, because it's uncomfortable to know that I got clinical notes I have to do, I don't know when a client's gonna call me up, and they may be suicidal, because when you're dealing with traumatology, of course, suicidal ideation is, is exponentially higher, the risk is exponentially higher. So with all of these things going on, and then I have family wondering where I'm at, and then I have wife, you know, who's also wondering where the hell I'm at, even though we live in the same house with all of these competing things going on, you know, I have to decide I have to prioritize which represents my truth the most.
Felicia Miller Johnson 6:48
Okay. So Harry I didnt know you were married!
Harry Turner 6:52
You didnt see, these rings I'm flashing over here,
Felicia Miller Johnson 6:54
Rings you -
Harry Turner 6:56
Right, you're right. You got me on that one, you got me on that. Yeah. Well, I met my wife in Africa actually.
Felicia Miller Johnson 7:08
Really? I didn't know that. How long yall been married?
Harry Turner 7:13
We've been married since 2016. We've been married six years going on
Felicia Miller Johnson 7:20
Get it right now.
Felicia Miller Johnson 7:24
Yeah, that's commitment.
Harry Turner 7:26
Yeah. That's commitment. Yeah. And that's made sure I never forget that damn date. You know
Felicia Miller Johnson 7:30
Exactly. I'm like, You better get it right.
Harry Turner 7:32
Well, yeah. We've been together at least six years. But yeah, it's it's it's she's, she's definitely she helps to ground me. I call myself a space cadet. You know, in this life, I believe that she is my soulmate of love to help me remain grounded as well. You know, and I know we're getting off topic a little bit, but I believe that they're all connected. It is all connected. You know, I believe that there's different types of soulmates and soulmate is a person who is sent into your life to change your life forever, to help you transform to help you go in a certain direction. And our parents, those are soulmates, you know, siblings, if we have siblings, those are soulmates, you know, somebody who comes into our lives and just there's this, there's this amazing interaction that happens, his reaction that happens and something new comes out of that, you know, you look back to your family for your truth, you know, to understand who you are, but then again, is that really who you are? So again, fresh start, you know, go ahead.
Felicia Miller Johnson 8:34
Yeah, cuz just got a message, because that's what I said, it's all connected, right? Because we just were talking about my mom and the relationships and that area, and the fresh start. So the question is, let me get to the question. The question is, how would you encourage someone that's looking for a fresh start in a relationship, maybe their marriage or connection because here's the connection, the crystal for today, Chrysocolla is about calms, cleanses and energize all the chakras, but it draws out guilt, kills heartache, and increases the capacity to love. And there's where the connection is, is like, so how can someone make a fresh start, in a relationship?
Harry Turner 9:20
Make new choices. And, and that's also by acknowledging where we are, you see a big part of that, that desire to change, or realizing that you need to change is acceptance. When we accept where we are currently, then we understand that those choices that we made in the past, they've had expiration dates, and they've long been expired. And we haven't updated the software of our system, being our mind, to understand where we are at this present time at this age, considering everything that's going on in our lives and reevaluate it and come back to the table and understand how do we continue to grow from here, you know, and it takes that takes two people sitting down to do that, oftentimes, as is the nature of humans, we get comfortable, and we become stagnant. You know, and stagnation. You know, eventually like water, you know, when we sit stagnant it, you know, rot begins to to form and fester stench begins to pick up, you know, that's how some connections end up becoming rotten over time. We forget that we're here to dance with one another, you know?
Felicia Miller Johnson 10:29
Yeah, it's like, one thing I think about visually is the waterflow, like when water just, or river or something like that, it's like when the water just sits like it where it's meant to flow. That's where you get all like the algae in the weird stuff. And like, so you get the smells, whereas water that is moving and flowing, is less likely to have those type of, you know, side effects from just sitting still, starting afresh. So.
Harry Turner 11:03
And considering that water is actually more powerful than rock, I mean, again, you study Bruce Lee, you realize that, and water can be a racing river, but it also and many times, it's just a soft, gentle flow, you know, flowing stream. And even though that rock is much harder than it appears to be much harder than the water over time, this gently flowing stream slowly chips away at Rock, that water, you know, is actually stronger than rock, you know?
Felicia Miller Johnson 11:33
Yeah. Yeah. Well, was the visual again, they have like a rock and water that just consistently drips in that same spot. Will eventually, wear a little hole or indentation into that into that rock. Right?
Felicia Miller Johnson 11:47
Felicia Miller Johnson 11:49
So we, so you know, think about is we're all about the practical as well. Because like, say, you know, there are times you can talk philosophy and, and all that. So, how do you practically, yes, practically, say goodbye to something so you can get your fresh start,
Felicia Miller Johnson 12:06
Like this, goodbye.
Felicia Miller Johnson 12:14
Harry Turner 12:15
No seriously, a life of authenticity again, you know, keeping it practical, it's really simple choices. But these choices, they become very difficult because you make them more difficult because we've governed we've made created rules around how to behave that keep us a certain lock in a certain pattern. Like, if you if you for instance, I've heard this many times for mothers who are fearful who want to jump out and be that solopreneur. But they're fearful that they spend time away from the house, that they would be a quote unquote, bad mother, you see those are codes, because I know that there's another human being who would even think twice about that and jump out there and do their thing. So it's not that a person cant do it, its that we choose to do it. And so if we understand that it's a choice, we have to understand how that choice benefits us. Why are we continuing to make that choice? And that's when we realized that some of our understandings are antiquated, such as what is a good or a bad parent?
Felicia Miller Johnson 13:13
Wow. Yeah, as a parent. With a 16 year old and a 10 year old, there are these, you know, expectations and what that supposed to look like and how you're supposed to live. I know one of the things that I've modeled myself on is the Proverbs, you know, 31. Woman. And it was a struggle, because like you said, it was how do you do all these different things? It was stay home, and you supposed to go out and work. But she did both of those things. Right. But for me, it was the knowledge or understanding like how did she do those well? And the key phrase for the hopeful that you're free somebody the phrase when he talks about, she takes care of her servants, aka the chick had help. You see what I'm saying, like she had a community she had people that were she wasnt doing it all by herself. A lot of times people think that you have to do that, like by yourself. But that's also the part about this crystal is that it encourages self awareness and inner balance, figuring out hey, how do I operate? What do I enjoy doing? And how does that you know what serves what doesn't? And being okay with saying goodbye to certain things that no longer resonate and align with me.
Harry Turner 14:38
So, practically, real quick, practically and again, simple. If for some reason we find it challenging. Meditation, when you're talking about how to say goodbye, what you're referring to is attachment. It is our it is the nature of the mind I spoke about this earlier today. It is the nature of the mind to attach itself to things if we stare at it long enough. And of course, if you live with somebody you're staring at their ass all the time, you know, I'm saying
Felicia Miller Johnson 15:08
you bring it back to relationships. Yes.
Harry Turner 15:11
That's what I'm saying that becomes that gets merged with your identity, to the extent that we can't tell the difference between us and life without it looking like this. But that's the thing, cognitive fusion, it's good because when we go to a movie theater, it helps us to enjoy the movie. You know, the longer, if you really enjoy that and you with the characters, you feel all the emotions that have gone through Shawshank Redemption is one of my favorite movies, the Matrix. And as I'm going through it, I'm just feeling the emotions of all those characters, you know, I'm going through it right there with them. But at the end of that movie, there's something that wakes us up out of that trance, and that's called the end, the end credits, and they turn on a light and they said, now that you've clogs your arteries with our popcorn, go home, you know, the movies over. And but that's the wake up call, you see, but in life, we continue to make the same decision, because we continue to look in the same direction, which is our past. That's why Hindsight is 2020. We're always looking for the answer based off of something that was already created or something we've already done from the past, not stepping out a little bit in that uncertain, I don't mean immerse yourself in the unknown. Like the podcast world was unknown for me. But then COVID hit. And I said, I still want to help my people heal. You know, and my colleague, Daphne Olivia, she's a dietitian, she wanted to help people heal, too. And so I said, Let's do free wellness calls, we decided to do that. And then people started going back to work. And they said, we really loved your calls those Can you please just start recording them, we started recording them. Now for a while we had enough recordings to create a podcast and that was the first podcast and now we have that going, I have that going. And I have this going. I never saw this happening. But I know that when a crisis happens, the the symbolic representation of a crisis is a combination of the words danger and opportunity. So even though I was afraid, I didn't know how I was going to make ends meet because I see people face to face, I lean into that discomfort and decided to do what I could do. Not only that I trained myself in teletherapy. Even though I'll admit, I used to clown on people that did telecare like ain't no real therapy through a computer. And that is that that what we doing these days? We don't make anymore, right? We don't even now. I don't wanna do anything but teletherapy
Felicia Miller Johnson 17:25
Okay, so let's, let's talk about that. So a lot of times, practically speaking is from terms of we're saying, that's sometimes how people get to a fresh start. Is something happen in their life, that expose them to something different. And you're like, you know what? Oh, wow. Would you wouldn't necessarily got here like that. We had all that judgment to it, like, well, that's not real. Like, come on, like, No, thank you that can't work. That's even like, you know, with the whole society, and we working from home. Like they have been talking about that for years. Like, you can work from home. No, you actually have to go into a building and sit next to these your co workers, right? How many jobs now? We found out like, No, you don't? Ah, didn't have to do that. Wow. Hmm. But it took something that was extreme. For that fresh start to happen. Like I didn't even know MGS it. A lot of times we collaborate we just connect with people I didn't know you had a you know, reservation or you call it about doing podcasts and all that. I mean, cuz you got all your your stuff together and likes it, you guys sound effects and all of that. So
Felicia Miller Johnson 18:46
Felicia Miller Johnson 18:48
One of the things I was saying, but I bet you this platform, now you're probably really reaching a wider audience. Whereas before it was an in person. He was probably in Louisiana, it was just that audience and your team was like, you know, I need you to expand, reach some more people the way that you can do that efficiently and still be at the house, you know, where your wife can see you and all that kind of stuff. Like, is the magic of this box called the Internet? And yeah,
Harry Turner 19:19
no, I'm, I'm agreeing with you. I'm getting more
Felicia Miller Johnson 19:22
good guy. Like, I thought he was gonna say that. Yeah.
Harry Turner 19:25
All I was gonna say is yes. And also lean into the discomfort from my practice immediate income. Uh, you know, I switch to teletherapy. You know, and of course, what we what I realize is again, it's for all of us, the mind was created with the ability to deceive. And so we place rules in place to keep us in the familiar, the familiar past. What was the rule that that I created? Teletherapy ain't no real therapy, and then rule that belief, which is more than just a belief. There were no facts or information behind it. But that belief kept me in the familiar. I didn't even think about doing teletherapy until pain and discomfort came. And see. That's why I say in this life, even though we get understanding, or we get pain. Now some pains, a lot of pain, we just can't help, you know, but that self chosen pain, that self chosen pain is when that change happens like COVID. And we don't lean into that discomfort and we resist it. That's a self chosen suffering, because that what you resist persists. And that's how people end up leaving their industry. You know, I know people who've been leaving the industry across the board, you know. And so we, some of it is well deserved time, it's time for them to leave the industry because they've been had it on the heart. But others, it's the inability to adapt to change that's causing them to leave. And that rigidity, again, when you look at mental health, you can see mental rigidity across the board and all mental health disorders, the more rigid a person is, the more disordered or dysfunctional they typically behave, which is why with the personality disorders, you see a straight up rigid, this is the way that they think this is the way they see the world, you can bring evidence to them. And they'll find a way to discredit that, oh, this, you know, fake media or whatever, and continue down this path. You know, they're playing, all of it is a mind game, you know, honestly, and even the thought, like you said earlier, to who would have thought that we could have did our job from home, I'm gonna be honest, I thought it, I thought it the entire time even growing up, I didn't understand outside of blue collar, like, you got to cut grass and stuff like that, or work on a barge, I knew that we could do it home, but you can't even watch an observed home, they're figuring it out now, they're figuring out ways to watch and observe you now. But that's the that's the issue. You know, we still still if you look at the factory age, the culture of the factory industrial age is it's there's an authority figure, you get watched, control. Exactly. And so we get so accustomed to that, that we assume that that's not some sick system, that is just normal, everyday life, and how we get lost. Because now we make rules around that, that structure that was created by somebody else, you know, we make rules around that to keep us in line, so that we don't, you know, get reprimanded, or whatever, you know, we lose our job following our heart, and people want to call us a bad parent. And also, what keeps us from changing is, is really that this belief that we've had all of these people who who say that they admire us and love us, and how proud they are of us, and all the things we remember all the celebrations that they came they came to, and when it comes down to doing something different and really step or doing the same thing but stepping out there further. The fear is because throughout that time, a lot of us suffer from that, what they call it, imposter syndrome. You know, yes, nation, a lot of us suffer from that. And because because of that, we don't want people to see that we are a phony, because that's what we believe in, right? And so why would I take these big risks? If I know that I'm a phony? Why would I risk, I'm a fail, and now everybody's going to see me exposed as the phony that I am.
Felicia Miller Johnson 23:11
But the thing about imposter syndrome, which is, underneath all of that is that most people experience imposter syndrome are really successful. They just deny this success. They don't own it. They disregard it. Like, oh, that was an accident. I just got lucky. Because they had to put effort into it. But they would say that I'm not really good. You know, at that end, it's like so you start disbelieving so for example, like this here, when it flows easily, and it comes well, and it doesn't take this effort and struggle. Like oh, I really must not be I'm really not all that good or no, it's, it's really not that big of a deal. But then you read other people's like, Well, how do you do that? And you like you say, how do you play the sound effects and have the cameras going and have the graphics and all these different things? Because you just take it as this is just what I do. He just flows. And that's where the imposter syndrome comes in.
Harry Turner 24:17
Then I must have imposter syndrome out this world. I'm gonna tell you because my people they come and they're like, Yo, when they telling me what I'm doing, and just and I was like, Oh, my goodness, man. And you did this like, Yo, and I'm like, I mean, yeah, I mean, no, I did. I did. I put in work for that. I put it work for that. But that's it. It was just I put in work for that. You know,
Felicia Miller Johnson 24:38
I didn't know that. See, I'm discovering these things. And as a woman who has written a book about imposter syndrome, you know, you have gotten my head tilted like dude, really?
Harry Turner 24:49
Hey, that's why I'm being vulnerable. That's why you know, the one of the things I want to model is vulnerability because I believe that that's you cannot be authentic without being vulnerable. and authenticity is the path to true connection. And so I want to model that and not you know, it's, it's, the fear is there because again, don't want to be exposed, right? Expose. But when you understand the truth of who you are when you begin to understand that you're constantly defining yourself is that that illusion begins to fade, and you just allow yourself to be understanding that you're ever evolving, ever growing in anything not growing is dead. So Yes, sister.
Felicia Miller Johnson 25:27
So here's where the question was talking about, like, what are the things that you can say goodbye to, for you? Imposter syndrome?
Harry Turner 25:37
Imposter syndrome. Okay
Felicia Miller Johnson 25:41
For imposter syndrome.
Harry Turner 25:46
Well, look, I'm apologetic because I haven't read your book yet. But I'm going to purchase that as soon as we get done today. And make sure that I read all through that. Because yeah, that's been that's been a thing for me, you know? Yeah.
Felicia Miller Johnson 25:58
Title, Do you feel like a fraud: a life coaches guide to overcoming imposter syndrome. And that was the basis from it was okay, if somebody didn't become a coach account, what is an imposter syndrome? And like, it's practical, because I'm like, here, here, here it is, this is what it is. Here are these 11 tips in order to help you to overcome it. Now, when the imposter syndrome doesn't completely go away, in the sense of No, because that voice is doesn't like even though, but what happens is, is that you process things faster. It led you as I will say, Bye, Felicia, to that, like, you're dismissed, thank you. I know you want to protect me and have the reservation so I can be safe. But I am going forth into this next expansion of what I need to go into.
Harry Turner 26:51
Well, as my definition of imposter syndrome has now even gotten refined more, I'll have to retract my earlier statement that I have to say, I've gotten over the imposter syndrome, if that's the case, because every morning, you know, every morning I wake up until my insecurities a it was eff you yesterday. And guess what this morning? It's the same exact thing. And mom a eff you means forget you.
Felicia Miller Johnson 27:22
Yeah, okay. doesn't really mean just gonna sit there and contextual
Harry Turner 27:33
But look, leaning into your gift, you know, understanding that this tension is here, leaning into that tension, or really highlighting what it is that you love to do. And when you lean into that, what do you really have in your heart to do, you know, begin to move into that uncertainty. So let's say, you know, I mean, throw out something random, that somebody may have a dream of doing anything like I don't want to, I don't want to come up with it. Because I want people to know I don't have this like in my back pocket, I won't give them a spontaneous. So give me a dream of somebody that somebody may have, but struggled to do. Okay.
Felicia Miller Johnson 28:10
They bake these wonderful cookies for their kids at home, and for their family and friends. And they think they're so delicious, and that you should really go open your own bakery, but then won't do it. There we go.
Harry Turner 28:22
Have not chosen to do it. Okay. So understand that intentionality reflects relationship I speak in code. You know, the whole philosophy thing I speak I speak in that because those are the principles, intentionality reflects relationship. So how can you continue to stare at that drain because everything, everything that we are, it's we are made up of energy, everything is created, everything is energy. And wherever you pour your awareness, your energy, wherever energy goes, or wherever attention goes, energy flows, how do you know that because whenever you are the say upset about something, that's you being aware, in that you're in the mind area of the mind, where you're upset of your, let's say, rage, rage, anger, you're in the area of the mind that contains or houses your anger, the longer you stay in that area of the mind, the stronger that experience becomes, because whatever you stare at becomes a reality. We don't see things as it is, but as we are, you know, we forget that we can spend so many time because spend so much time on this outside world that we forget that the inner world is the real world and we try to manipulate the outside world but that's not the real that needs manipulation. Because again, we don't see things as they are but as we are it's this right here that needs to recalibration. So you got to come back home and talk to your star player. Being yourself moving your head down to your heart. Exactly. You got to move from your head to your heart because your head ain't gonna be able to figure it out. Because your head looks backwards. The mind looks backwards. That's why it has 2020 hindsight. If you want to look forward you got to move from your head to your heart and really get real with yourself and understand how you've created this world around past decisions and that those past decisions have long expired, and it is time to make new choices. We are always in the process of creating and even Indecision is a decision within itself because when we are indecisive, we choose to remain in the familiar past.
Felicia Miller Johnson 30:11
Ahh. You better tell em Harry. So basically, go forth and open that bakery shop.
Harry Turner 30:24
Okay, practical, practical, what would I do? If I had that dream? Yeah, I'm going to someone who owns a bakery shop, period, I'm going to ask them how they how they did it. And let me tell you, if that person, you know, because I'm from the south, so let's say that person isn't too don't take too kindly to me come in and ask them about, you know how to open up a bakery shop, I'm going to somebody another bakery shop, I'm not going to stop, I'm going to go and I'm gonna continue to span out. I don't care how many bigger shops I have to go to. Because guess what, my life responds to my intentional choices. intentionality reflects relationship. I don't have to have the money to purchase the shop yet. All I need to do is let life know I'm gonna continue to respond to this. And I will not stop responding to that, until I experience what it is that I chose and life will honor that. Its the intentional response to what it is that you truly choose. Because when you do that, that means that is real for you. I'm not gonna respond to something that's not real for me. You know, the moment that we respond to it, it's real intentionality reflects relationship. The reason why some relationships fall apart, going back to relationships is because we forget that intentionality reflects relationship, the more we stay disconnected, the more the relationship fades away to the point where they can't even recognize the relationship anymore. They don't really feel anything anymore. Because intentionality reflects relationship. That's a universal law. You know, that's why I focus on these universal laws because I can take them I could, I could deal with the person who's hesitant to to open up the cookie store or, or whatever the person is trying to go to the NFL and NBA or WNBA like I can use the same laws in every single situation is always the same. We have to be intentional about making new choices. No, you may not have you may not have spoken to somebody who owned a cookie shop before cookie store before or bakery, excuse me cookie shop,a bakery before. But that's that's the new choice.
Harry Turner 32:15
That's right there, you're going to speak to them. And you don't know what's gonna happen from that. Because that's how life conspires in your favor. You don't even know the conversation that you're going to have. And they may lead you to your next doorway that you need to walk through. Or give me the person that says, You know what, I'm tired of doing this, you seem pretty passionate. I love the way you look back over. And now you're part of that system, learning how to run how to own your own bakery because they done took you under they wing. Because they hoping that you take over, and you can take over. Or you create your own thing. There's so many different opportunities, we forget because we stay in the old still expired choices. We forget that we exist in a realm of endless possibilities. And we are constantly co-creating our existence. We're constantly creating and creating our existence based off of the the status of frequency of our internal states.
Felicia Miller Johnson 33:09
Yes. Speak brother, you know, yeah. So with all that, that can help you to have that that fresh start. And so as we get ready to wrap up, today's you know, show here's another tip that you can do for this fresh start. Like I said, for the United States realize this is the internet so you can be watching anywhere. So double check it for you. But here for me, it is a new moon a full moon. It is actually the Worm Moon, which talks about basically the ground has been broken up enough that worms can come out in signifying spring and the Fresh Hope new start. So you thinking about what can I actually do. So I encourage you tonight, you can take a picture of a crystal crystal, or something that resonates with you go outside into the nature under the full moon and think about what it is that you want to do for your fresh new start.
Harry Turner 34:18
Hmm, I'm just I just had to throw some questions out there for those who have played and also throughout the spelling of that crystal because I know I didn't know how to spell it at first. So yeah, can you watch one more time sister
Felicia Miller Johnson 34:30
Chris risk. Oh my gosh, you asked me now Chris Chris cola. Just fine. Pronounce it?
Felicia Miller Johnson 34:42
Harry Turner 34:43
Look, this is also what I'll tell you how to prepare for making a fresh start. You see when you put up an example of the bakery, when you go and talk to that person, you're doing something different but also you're going to get new information. So that mind of ours it's it's amazing. The brain is the hardware of the mind is the software, that mind of ours is so amazing that if you just give it the gas that it needs, it'll take you further. And the gas that it needs is knowledge. Because ignorance and freedom can coexist. When I run into a bunch of I don't know, in the in the, in the age, we're no longer in industrial age, we're in the information age. And in information age, well, we have this demigod called Google. When I run into these, these, these, I don't knows, I do more research. And when I do more research, I begin to understand things from a different perspective. Now I'm seeing all these other things, and I'm seeing how this underlying thread connects them all. And on that, I'm discovering my own process, I'm discovering universal truths. Once I discover a universal truth, I'm going to apply that to my subjective individual circumstances. And I'm gonna make choices based off of that. I told you the podcast, that was when COVID hit the first podcast When Harry Met Daphne. Crisis, only because I knew the definition and understood the philosophy that the Chinese symbol represented both danger and opportunity that my my anxious mind was going off, are you about to lose everything, there was another part of me that said, endure, be persistent. Endure, be patient, because there's opportunity coming for you. And you don't know how this opportunity is gonna happen. You don't know what's gonna happen. And the whole time I'm over here doing these freezone wellness calls, still waiting for that opportunity to happen, I really realized that I had already embarked on the opportunity. You know, so really being able to see because this right here sees on the inside, not see so much and understand how to manipulate the outside. Because you focus on that, then you're going to focus on scarcity, you want to remain in a desperate state. Yeah, lack, you know, and you can remain in these wants, and my faith and I'll say this, my last thing is, I know we got to end it. But you know, in my faith, it says, you know, in David, it says, The Lord is my shepherd, I shall not want and when I tried to understand that, because for me studying, you know, also my favorite says, Study to show thyself approval workman and he did not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth. And so study is to search with intent. And so when I began to study that with the intention of actually understanding that text, what I understood in that is that want to look at the definition of want having beginner's mind and understood that one implied lack and so when I say I want I'm implying I lack and that I am statement of I am lack was creating more scarcity and lack in my life. That's how these universal laws operate. So you got to be careful about your words, you got to use words that affirm you.
Felicia Miller Johnson 37:32
Harry Turner 37:33
There you go, when somebody asks you what you want, you don't go well, I don't want this anymore. Because now you're staring at what you don't want, thats why whatever you fear you attract. Because you're staring at that and wherever attention goes, energy flows. And so now you build energy and you pour energy into that. No, affirm your life by only focusing on what it is that you truly do desire to experience, what you do want. Focus on do wants, no more phrases about I don't want to get that whole that whole structure of being able to say sentences, get that, kick that out of the universe.
Felicia Miller Johnson 38:06
Let that go, let it go Release,
Harry Turner 38:08
Release, please release that because that's part of holding what's holding you back you understand that you have to choose and use all of your energy focusing on that anyway, look, I know we at the end of this thing I keep on flowing the way I flow but
Felicia Miller Johnson 38:21
If you want more listen to the podcast, where can people find their?
Harry Turner 38:27
Oh yes, they can find the podcast at become an outlier.com/links become an outlier.com/links and I have some freebies up you get a freebie meditation. Oh yeah, yeah, I'm doing meditations now
Felicia Miller Johnson 38:40
If you wanna example of that tune into week one, Harry did do a meditation for us on our first session Friday night enlightenment Yes,
Harry Turner 38:48
yes entire meditations subscription out there but you'll get a free meditation also you can get the free ebook and I don't mind saying that at all my ebook is fly you get a free I mean a free it's like a little ebook but I forget what you call there's another term for it besides ebook, but it's a free ebook that you get on Shadow Work, you know, understand? I am and you know, because I know that spook certain people I grew up. I grew up in church, so I know how the word Shadow Work. happened to my child, I went to college and got all them degrees and became a damn oil the power of Christ compels you, come on now.
Felicia Miller Johnson 39:29
I'm like I keep by Well, yeah.
Harry Turner 39:33
But I am a lightworker that teaches shadow work. And Shadow Work is introspection. And why I say I'm a light worker that teaches shadow work is because us being awareness. We bring our awareness to these areas that we are ignoring and light up the darkness as brother Bob Marley would say, until the unconscious becomes conscious, it will direct your life and we will call it fate. And too many of us are still operating off of that antiquated algorithm that has us in the same patterns over and over again, life exists in cycles. But some of us are choosing to remain in the same cycles by telling ourselves that we don't have any other choice but to do what we've been doing. And that is a lie. You are a creator, you're not restrained by your past decisions. Okay, see, now I'm starting to get great. Yeah, become an outlier.com/links. Just tell them where they can find you at because, you know, I'm so grateful for it. Let me say it's real. I'm so grateful for you. I really like your your energy, your wisdom, you know, in the way you just threw this together like that. What you came with the topics and I was like, huh, that is all of this was like, it's on point synchronicity. It was on point. So I'm grateful for your energy. I'm grateful for the collaboration. I'm grateful for the connection. So please tell the people where they can find you.
Felicia Miller Johnson 40:54
Yeah, well, you can find me right here on LinkedIn. As you can see, connect with me there. I have my own webcast, all intuitive conversation, where I'm having conversations usually with people I don't even know but those individuals that wants to live smart and that see themselves and awaken, master their emotions, ask believe and receive, relax, relate beliefs, and talk wisely. You can also find me on YouTube. And yeah, those are the two main ones. And if you're interested in some, some free items, you can visit my website sevenfoldcoaching.com.
Harry Turner 41:31
I asked permission already. So I'm gonna say this and plus I'm not revealing anybody's identity. But say that again, relax,
Felicia Miller Johnson 41:38
relax, relate and release. And talk wisely.
Felicia Miller Johnson 41:43
Relax, relate and release?
Felicia Miller Johnson 41:45
Yes, that was the message that I got from different worlds that episode when we went to go see a therapist.
Felicia Miller Johnson 41:51
Yeah. Okay, okay. Yeah.
Harry Turner 41:58
So before we go, I gotta put this on wax. I know that that works. Because you know, and I asked him permission, it was they were okay with me saying this. And I said, I got a I got to put this on there. So a one of my people came to me and was like, Mr. Turner, let me tell you, I was flashing out. And I didn't know what to do. So I said, Oh, I can't call them so let me let me put on one his podcast and he does podcasts and they listen to the podcasts that you and I did together. And they came to me and excuse me if I mess it up because I got to memorize yet because they haven't memorized. Mr Turner, I had to go head on and relax. What does it relate to?
Felicia Miller Johnson 42:35
Relax, relate, release. Yes,
Harry Turner 42:38
I had to get on and relax relate and release? Because I was about to lose it. Mr. Turner, let me tell you, that podcast right that that saved my life and somebody else's life. Mr. Turner, let me tell you. I said I'm here to tell her this one. I'm a save one of my people lives you don't even know it. Never even met her. Yeah. That's power. That's and that's that's the that's the beauty about what we do. You know, when you give with with love, you know it, you don't expect anything in return, but love. But when it comes back, it comes back and you impact so many different people. And it's so big, you know, that you realize that all of us are walking on paths. And as much bigger than us. In the you know,
Harry Turner 43:23
I guess I'll end with this my ultimate goal. My mission is to assist others in developing the audacity to live unapologetically authentic, my ulimate goal and I said this earlier is to get us on the same frequency, you know, to you know, we don't have to use the same words, but just like my sister and I were on the same frequency. And my physics may be a little antiquated, maybe a little old. So please don't correct me if I'm wrong, or you know, let me know early email me. But water molecules, when they oscillate to the same frequency that determines the size of the wave, the more water molecules that oscillate to the same frequency, the larger the wave. And so my desire has always been to link up with other water molecules and get us together so that we oscillate that we have so many water molecules of love oscillating to the same frequency that we become a tidal wave of love that forever radically changes the face of this earth. This planet because this planet needs it now. We have wars. We have global warming. We have financial disasters. We have brother attacking brother sister attacking Brother Uncle attacking niece grandma attacking grandpa, we have so much division and discord right now, you know, so much divisiveness, so much pain and so much inner turmoil and hatred. So during this time, we need Lightworkers more than ever and we need to be united. Yeah, we all doing our own thing. I have my son School of our lives. You know, my sister has us so much she has a program. But all of us need to be collaborating and getting together so that we can oscillate on that same wave so we can begin to make major radical changes to improve the conditions for all of humanity. I'm no more than one one more, I realized that but I'm gonna do my part. I'm just connect with enough people to do the same thing so we can become that tidal wave of love. So that's my last little bit sister.
Felicia Miller Johnson 45:20
And I want to encourage you that just think about what you were uncomfortable with of doing the podcast if you didn't have your podcast, you and I wouldn't have met there wouldn't have been a show for your client to hear
Harry Turner 45:36
one last time for moms.
Felicia Miller Johnson 45:41
In there it is.
Harry Turner 45:41
Yo, yo Mad Love and Respect live in tuth y'all stay lit. I appreciate y'all check out the other two episodes of y'all and check it out. And definitely I'll be releasing on the podcast but thank y'all for for those of y'all who followed us, and we really appreciate y'all man, love and respect
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