Harry Turner 0:00
It was an excellent man. I know we had that time and it wasn't. I
Brandon Croucher 0:15
don't steal. So I want to elaborate on this for a second. Don't steal. It's pretty common. Hey, this isn't yours. Don't take it. But the thing is, how often do we take others? jorts? How often do you tend to edit? We let others take our joy? How often do you let others take your column your patience, like all of a sudden, you're watching? You're at home, you're relaxing, you're reading the Bible. All right, I'm with Jeff because I watch how he's watching his mouth and I'm over here dropping F bombs. So you're you can
Jeff McKoy 0:40
you can you can have mine I don't I don't use them. So you got your actual
Brandon Croucher 0:46
respectful I get it will trust me I will be there's no one else like me. I've realized that in this world. And I thought I'd take it. So for me, it's I got tired of letting others steal my joy. I got tired, let another steal. And I'm being honest with this. Think about work. You honest with yourself, you vote and you work your tail off all day. And then someone else gets the credit. They stole your work ethic, they steal your joy, and they stole your I don't even know your promotion. Maybe the thing is, when we let others get into our heads, it was as you just said, where you're who you're vibrating with who you're around and all that. We can let them control and confuse us. Don't let that happen. If you can control yourself and control your urges, you're going to be able to handle yourself better so people can't steal your joy and you're not stealing.
Harry Turner 1:36
Oh, man, I'm just loving the flow, man. I'm just loving the flow, man. This is
Brandon Croucher 1:41
Oh, my number nine. I'll dive right into number nine because these two go together. Okay. Okay. Number nine, don't lie. Okay? It sounds so simple. And all of these religions, every single one says don't lie. Let your yes be yes, check your no be no all these different things. But the thing is, how often have you heard Oh, Little White Lies don't hurt. Oh, don't worry about that. Don't think about that. Don't worry, let that go. That's their responsibility. Now stuff like that. The thing is, don't lie. You back up and you bumped the car behind you leave a note, even if there's no damage. Why? Because that's your conscious that you don't know what maybe what you did. Maybe you shook something loose, and all of a sudden, the inside the securities going off all the time, and they need to get that fixed. The thing is, you don't need to be always trying to protect yourself. Sometimes the truth is way more profound than the lie that you're going to come up with. And it's going to get you way further. So don't lie. So you don't have to worry about what everybody else is thinking. Or what you said to others.
Jeff McKoy 2:48
That's wonderful, even, even Shakespeare, he ain't necessarily religious, but he said to thine own self be true. And that's a lot of what we're talking about here is when we when you talking about being lit, are living in truth. It's like when we start learning these spiritual truths and those things that are outside of this physical plane, that truth is what it doesn't change. It doesn't matter what the religion is. The truth is going to be the truth, even when the facts shift from time to time, because the facts can change. But when the truth shows up, the facts don't matter.
Brandon Croucher 3:23
Oh, can I throw something at you, Howard? I got something to throw at you. Okay, this is for both of you. How are you? How are you? So
Harry Turner 3:33
who's Howard? Oh. I'm Harry.
Jeff McKoy 3:40
Cody. How would you call them Ray if that works?
Brandon Croucher 3:44
Better. That's why I stick with Reverend pastor and like,
Jeff McKoy 3:47
I couldn't let it go again. I said how would be that that's what he's saying.
Brandon Croucher 3:56
Carry I know Jeff's name. Don't worry about that. All right, Howard. Pastor Howard. Okay.
Harry Turner 4:03
All right. I got a few things to say if you get
Brandon Croucher 4:06
no watch, I'm gonna I'm gonna throw a fact out here that I could show you guys the evidence on that. I don't think a lot of people though. So when you go and you're running for political office, we're not allowed to offer you're not allowed to offer anything. Hey, I'll give you free movie tickets. Hey, do this and I'll buy you McDonald's or something we're not allowed to bribe right. Do you know why that is? Because they? Well, yes. Because they're politicians that are supposed to be for the people. How about the first election held for President George Washington was losing and he turns around and he goes to the state of Virginia and sends his people to all the pubs. Anybody who didn't vote, he will give that buy them their drinks for the night. If they go vote for him. He won the election because of this. And his first act was to abolish the fact that you're not allowed to give you're not allowed to bribe your voters. So what I'm saying is, the facts that are there sometimes get covered up and when the truth comes out. It will always, always represent the better. So we now know something about our politicians from day one that don't get me wrong had a lot of wrong. And though in different ways, I want to make sure I point that but there's things that they were doing, and things that we do today that are always judged in different ways. And you have to know that times change, and you have to adapt. And without George Washington do that he never would have been our first president, and I wouldn't be able to tell the story. But I also say, without him being there, we wouldn't be able to know where we're going to go and how we're going to do so for ourselves, you have to be able to separate the two and know who you are. So you don't do that same thing, leading people down the wrong road. Shut up now hiring Howard.
Harry Turner 5:50
The Real McCoy first hold on real McCoy because I'm on I'm on the amount of black women and we're gonna talk I'm gonna request
Jeff McKoy 5:57
I pass the mic. I'm just absorbing this one.
Harry Turner 6:03
All right. So first, let me deal with number eight real quick because I didn't say anything on that. Do not steal do not steal from you understand this, a person can take was not this into the possession of something that's yours, then that means that you gave it over, a person can't push your buttons unless you give them the control of first. So understand what it is to honor the limits of your territory. Because if a person is taking something from you more than likely una territory, are they in yours, maybe, but honor your own territory, all right. And as far as the stealing the other is a reflection of yourself. So to take from the other is essentially to take to take from yourself, whatever you put out there, whatever energy you will vibrating at, when you in that that energy of Amata get them I'm about to take this, I'm gonna take that that's what you are attracting in your life in some form or fashion. It's not as linear as you think it's not as basic as you may think it's okay, well, I still is and well, I don't really care if somebody is still that same thing for me. No, it's gonna be about something that you do care about. Anybody worried about that, if you don't care about that same energy that you put out there, it's gonna come back to you. And usually, usually, it's in a different form. Now, number nine, don't lie in you won't have to worry about what others have said, have what you have said to others yet, but to worry about what you've said to others. There we go. Understand that the other is a reflection of oneself. And so in a state of lying, I want to extend compassion to you, in a state of lying, the only reason you are projecting the lies because you first chosen or made the choice not to accept your truth, ignorance and freedom cannot coexist. And so some part of you that beloved, that believe this limiting belief of unworthiness, you attach your self to that thought that you are unworthy of something. And so now you got to present yourself in a different fashion. But understand that that perfectionistic part is the is a cognitive distortion, he doesn't understand how strong you are, it doesn't understand just how worthy you are. It doesn't understand that it doesn't operate from that space. It operates from a place of dark, not light. And so when you are projecting a lie, essentially what you're what you're really projecting for a person like myself anyway, is the fact that you've yet to truly accept your truth, which means that you live in a state of fear. And the hardest prisoner to escape is a prison that we can't see touch, taste or smell, it's consisted of our fears, and we trap ourselves in those things, clothing those lies and fears, believing that we will be safe, not knowing that that is the source of our suffering. We'd like doesn't bring pain but much of our suffering is self chosen, because we've not accepted our truth again, my favorite author Khalil Gibran pain is the breaking of the show that includes you to understand and it's the bit of potion with which the doctor the doctor within heals your six health so drink the potion and in peace and tranquility tranquility again. Let me say it a little bit slower. Yes, please Hain is the breaking of the shale that encloses your understanding. It is the bitter medicine, by which your inner Doctor heals you at your truth. Your pain is the guy to your truth because your pain is not there to judge you to hell with the judgments to hear what anybody else got to say about what somebody's got to say about you is none of your damn business. You can't pay your bills with nobody to think about you. It's not about what other people say about you or anybody outside judgment it's about how you judge you and how you see you understand this energy right now people are throwing stones right now there's always gonna be some some Salem witch trials. And I'm not really saying saying that this is it. But you know, people toss around the word narcissistic like it's water like they actually most of the people that that toss it around, can't even spell the word, let alone understand the ramification that is a disorder but if you notice, with people who are actually clinically diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder, they're constantly projecting out lives and the very lie that they project It is their own truth. And it's so obvious to see. That's what I mean by ignorance and freedom cannot coexist and so they can't even see it because they've already made the choice to not see. But until the unconscious becomes conscious, you will direct your life and you will call it fate. As as that's all I gotta stay on those and well, yeah,
Brandon Croucher 10:20
I want to drop the mic on there. I wish I had sounded like I was well done.
Jeff McKoy 10:29
Yeah. How would be that name gave me that.
Brandon Croucher 10:36
Worst part is I know his name. And I'm like, so I'm like Harry Howard Howard, Harry Potter. Alright, so number 10. And this one, I think everybody needs to understand. And this is a big one, stay grateful, while not comparing yourself to others. And the reason I say that is number 10. Is because a lot of what the first part of that is, are remembering who you are remembering where you come from, and knowing where you're grounded and finding your best view. But the thing is, is we've said we've had a lot of goods and Bad's analogies and all this. But if you can't stay grateful, if you can't see where you're blessed, and it could be something as small as funny as this is gonna sound that dumpster that you got food from that you at least ate today. Like, it could be something as small as that the minute we start taking the small blessings and really saying, yes, thank you. It's like how in John, it says, In the book of John, it says that you have many talents, some have one, some have five, some have 10. And a lot of people take that as talents like juggling or speaking and stuff. The thing is, your talents are something you're supposed to be able to use to give blessings to give back. You're supposed to be able to know who you are, when you stay grateful to yourself and giving back to others. You're going to be able to never compare yourself to others because you're already going to be vibrating at a level so high. You're going to be blessing yourself left and right. If I'm done you guys can yell at each other now.
Harry Turner 12:02
Read this the only read only you know
Brandon Croucher 12:05
your rev. He's how he's Jeff. Yeah, I know what I know. What's what your wrap? Right? I did it backwards. Your ref. And you're the real McCoy. Right there. I got this. Okay.
Harry Turner 12:21
All right. The Real McCoy what you got for number 10? No, no, you got something number 10.
Jeff McKoy 12:29
Okay, well, I'll stay near for the river close second, as far as far as gratitude, that is, is paramount gratitude is just you're talking about staying present. And when you can be present to the things that you are grateful for. Every day, before I wake up and put my feet on the floor, I'm like, Thank you for another day. It's like gratitude begets more, and you don't have to compare yourself to others. Because everything that others have, you have the capacity to have that same more because we're made of the same stuff being being a part of that spiritual consciousness that God has placed in our individual personalities, and given us an ego to have our own, we have the capacity to focus on those things that are spiritual, and not just all those things that are physically present. But when we acknowledge the source, the causation beneath that thing that we are experiencing, then we can expand it because there are no limits. There are no walls that say, you can only go so far from a spiritual standpoint, and when you understand that beneath all matter is spirit. And you being a part of that entirety, that Universal Spirit, if you will, you have the capacity to reach outside of your physical wall and reach into that spiritual world and pull those things into physical manifestation. So if you're grateful for the little things, then you know spirit recognizes that God recognizes that hey, you understand that you're not doing it of your own physical effort in your in your strength and power or your might, but you are understanding and recognizing that something someone higher and greater than who you are and who you represent on this plane has made the provisions for you and when you are ready or acknowledging that source and its ability to give you then gratitude begets more you began to receive more you begin to expand because once you can start believing and trusting God for for something a little bit more than what you currently have you can be grateful for as Peter was said I've learned to be content with such as I have but no he wouldn't satisfy unnecessarily. He didn't say I had to stop there you can be content where you are but still pressing because he said just didn't press toward the mark for the prize of the high court, meaning he wanted more than what he currently had. So you can still strive for more and want more but while being grateful wait for what you have and trusting God or spirits to provide you the avenues The channels to create more abundance in your life. And then that will show up. And as your faith grows and your belief grows, the things that you have to be grateful for grows, and that talent goes from one to five to 10 to 3060 100, folks.
Harry Turner 15:13
Yes, yes. Again, y'all summed it up brothers. He's one of y'all. But I'll add that gratitude is the highest state of receivership. So I'll deal with the back end of that first, staying grateful and not comparing yourself to others. First, you can't compare yourself to other to the other because not even twins are born identical. Every human soul was born on purpose, for a purpose with a purpose. The journey is to discover that and then to live in that truth of your purpose. That's what authenticity is about. And the reason why my mission is to assist others in developing the audacity to live unapologetically authentic is because that is the practice of happiness. Because happiness is not a destination to be reached. By the way we travel, we must travel in practice the art of being happy, because too many of us practice the art of being miserable. And we put that energy out there. And if all you stare at is what you don't want, you compare yourself to the other and say, and then look at what you've got to say you don't want but guess what we don't see things as they are. But as we also then you create an invitee and more experiences of what you don't want. Because we have energy, we have attention goes energy flows, and everything consistent, you see how these universal universal laws all tie in together, it is, I'm the president. And so Gratitude is the highest state of receivership. Because when you are in a grateful state, you are asking you also listening more of that which you are grateful for. Read read. Iago stop, not, you are asking this, literally, you're asking you're asking to receive, because where you're moving is from your head, to your heart. And when you are in a state of gratitude, it opens up the heart space to receive, you see, there's a responsibility in that, in that interaction of both giver and receiver, the giver gotta know what they give in and give what it is that the person is actually seeking, desiring or needing, they must get from love, gift from Love. Basically, the giver must operate from a space of love, but the receiver must be also open to receive love. And many of us are not open to receive love, because we've identified a pseudo love or love based off of conditions as love and that we say we don't want that. Understand that all love is unconditional, meaning it does not come with conditions. It's not a matter of whether you were worthy or unworthy. It's not a matter of whether you practice lying or, or being envious, or where you came. It's not about your story. It's about your truth. Because ignorance and freedom cannot coexist. And so our shame, that emotion of shame, when we get out of alignment with who we are, shame is our cry for correction and understand that Shame does not represent who you are, but who you are not. And the moment that you see that you are staring at who you are not you must be intentional. And mindfully, move your awareness back towards who you are. Because whatever you stare at eventually becomes your reality. And so then you convince yourself that you are shame, you move from I've done something bad to I am bad as Brene Brown would put it. So gratitude opens you up to receive your heart's desires, period. That's why you'd be grateful in all things because it's not Oh, that's the wrong one right that permission errors in our own emails. But anyway, oh, Lord hammers, I got quotes and we will just come in from now.
Brandon Croucher 18:44
Ladies and gentlemen, it's time for the time and offer a section of itself. Technical difficulties right now.
Harry Turner 18:55
But again, I just summed it up by saying that gratitude opens up the heart space, which when you give up when you when, when when life understands, because life is always conspiring in your favor. So when you say to life I want or I'm looking at what I don't want, that's your choice. And so life then allows what you don't want to remain but then when you open up your heart via gratitude, and give thanks and all things. Now you've opened up your hands, to receive what it is that you truly desire. Because it's only when I let go of who I am, that I'm able to become who I might be, you got to let go of those old choices, those old limiting beliefs about yourself those old stories you keep telling about yourself, those old limitations you keep placing on yourself. That's what you must let go in order to become who you might be and gratitude is the highest state of receivership. Gratitude will allow you to stop staring at what it is that you are not and what it is that you don't want and pivot you right back towards what is right for you what will help you to heal or to become whole again from that fractured state of fear and shame because in a fractured state, ego down Nate's, but when you reintegrate or you become whole again, now you heal and you understand that holy and heal has the same origin. And so to be holy is to heal. So to be holy or to heal, if you're walking the path of healing, then eventually you're being holy. So if you're walking your healing, a path of reintegration, or returning to love, than you are walking your path of what's right for you, or what is righteous for you. So now you're walking your path of righteousness based off of living in accordance with your truth. Seek now I'll say one last one last thing, seek not the path to God, but rather seek to find God on your path.
Brandon Croucher 20:40
Yes. Hmm. So I have one question. Yes. Did you guys buy your headphones together?
Harry Turner 20:51
There's a lot of synergy. There's a lot of synergy going on me. mendation are to mangle? Yeah.
Brandon Croucher 20:59
That was all it was, it cracked me up because I'm like sitting here. And it was it was honestly, commandment number three, I caught it. And I'm like, I have to wait till we get through all 10 of these before I can bring this up. That was when I was like, wow, they have the same exact headset on I'm like, I was looking at the mics. I'm looking at the background. I'm like, where else are they matching up on this? So I think that, honestly, I'm grateful you had me on for this very special part from my heart. I when I shared it with you to begin with Howard. So when I shared it to you in with it was because I was feeling it myself. And you called me and said, let's bring brother Jeff on. Because I know he's gonna have this and we're gonna have some synergy. The thing is, this energy between us is one thing, but we need to make sure everybody that's listening to this, didn't hear three grown men's voices, and giving a word out there that was nothing. This is a seed that's being planted in your heart for you guys to hear and find the best version of yourself, do yourself a favor after this podcast, please share it and send it out there. And while on others, remember to pick one of these and just go with it and be your best few. Thank you.
Harry Turner 22:09
The Real McCoy, what you got brother, as we signing off what you got brother,
Jeff McKoy 22:14
I'm so glad I had opportunity to just hang out with you guys today. I mean, it's been phenomenal. It's been a blessing. And just just to share and give other perspectives. Because a lot of times we need to see something slightly different and have a different understanding a lot of time we get our own box, our own paradigm of how things are. And there may have been a deeper understanding and deeper meaning that we may have missed along the process. And like I said, it comes if you don't take those times, to stand still and be quiet and hear what God is dropping into your spirit of the universe is dropping into your spirit for you, you might be at a stage where you need to hear somebody who understands it a slightly different level than you might understand it and be able to share those insights. But once you understand, and you can grab hold of those things and you can begin to run and then that desire to understand more and to go deeper starts to grow and build up into you like a well of water you start seeking. That's like when you should start seeking. It's like you will not thirst a hunger for because it will be provided for you. When you have that burning desire to go and understand God. Higher level, and you know, it will be provided, all you have to do is ask for it. Say hey, I'm open, teach me show me and it will come to you. And then after you've asked, shut up, be quiet. Just listen and receive what he had to say. It sounds like,
Harry Turner 23:33
Oh, I'm so grateful for the two of y'all. And for this synergistic flow because we had two or three I gather Come on now. So I just I just want to just state that I'm grateful for you. And I'm grateful to y'all took time to share and bless this stage with me. And I know that we've given a mouthful, people understand. Now you know that I'm dealing with giants here, y'all I need y'all to understand. But also we respect and honor those that came before us whatever the story is, no matter what they may or may not have accomplished in their lifetime because we stand on the shoulders of giants. Even if they lay down, we still stand on the shoulders of giants. So again, my name is nocturnal therapist, we got the real McCoy. Y'all got our websites down. We got Brandon crowchild share your me. We got our websites down at the bottom. I've been flashing them down every now and again. Y'all got anything else village I want to say before we hit on out.
Brandon Croucher 24:29
I got one thing and I meant to put it in earlier. We compared all these different religions in that and we kept bringing up Jesus and Buddha and stuff. But the one thing we have to remember, what was Jesus doing before he got taken away? What did the disciples say happened to him were throughout all of it when he needed to get answers. He went and was alone and was in silence. The only way anyone gets to where they want is you'd have to go be alone. Come on.
Jeff McKoy 24:57
I agree with what Brandon was just saying entirely, you have to have the time to just get in silence be in being peace and quiet, just receive, but you have to open yourself up to receive. And I know in the Christian world, that doesn't mean you got to become possessed with a bunch of different spirits and all that type stuff. But it's just it's part of standing still and seeing the salvation of the Lord, if you will just get just being quiet and trusting and knowing that he has you soul covered. And you can sit back and say, Hey, these things that are my responsibility, I'll handle these things that are beyond my ability, I'll allow you to handle because, you know, we're told to help each other carry each other's burdens. And those burdens that we help each other carry. That means it's too much of a way for us to carry on our own. So we get help from one another, we help our brother we are our brother's keeper in that sense, or our sister's keeper from that wheel. But our own loads, it says you have to carry your own load, this just gonna be just like your your nap, that knapsack you can carry that that you don't need no help with it. We're not to put our loads on other people. We are getting help with our burdens, but we got to carry out loads. So make sure that as you go for that when you need help, go get the help that you need. Don't try to handle burdens all by yourself. But when you got your load that You and You alone are responsible for make sure you carry it don't try to toss it off on somebody else. Bless you.
Brandon Croucher 26:17
I like Jeff I like Jeff a lot.
Harry Turner 26:20
Like you, ladies and gentlemen. I'm lucky but check me out on my page become an outlier.com/links Please check my brothers out of their pages. Ya know, I've been flashing it down here the entire episode. And again, my mission statement is to assist others and developing the audacity to live unapologetically authentic. The lit effect is about combining those right amount the right amount of lit factors such as accepting such as gratitude, such as the practice of being mindful and knowing that intentionality reflects relationship combining the right set of ingredients to make this gumbo for the perfect situation in this present moment. And then you lit up for life. You're living in your truth and that is the only path to true happiness, peace, contentment, that's the path of authenticity. So I'm your host and I have my my wonderful brilliant guest and we are out y'all We appreciate it. stay lit
